The most important thing when seeking inspiration for your wedding day is to first ensure it reflects the true character and personalities of both the bride and the groom. That was one of the first tips I picked up when working as personal assistant to celebrity event planner and style guru Colin Cowie as we began planning Jessica Sklar and Jerry Seinfeld's nuptials. More than likely, the bride has been envisioning her wedding day since she was a child, through the years collecting ideas and inspirations for the "big day." But what many brides fail to realize is that it's not all about the bride and her wants and needs. Should those wants and needs be fulfilled? Absolutely, but so should the groom's. If you are working with a professional wedding planner, that's the first and best advice one should offer you. Take some time out of your busy schedules to do some communicating. Ask your groom how he has pictured his wedding day. Many may respond they never painted one, others may have a strong opinion. Get that on the table right away. Create a "his and hers" list of inspirations and ideas. Be sure to categorize by topics, such as location, budget, how many attendees, ambiance, music (band or DJ), lighting, flowers, attire, photography, etc. Both should quietly fill out the list and then exchange ideas when teach has finished. You may be pleasantly surprised, and maybe even moved by your partner's responses. Ask them how they envision YOU walking down that aisle! Don't you think that's the most important part? Knowing just how to see your mate's jaw drop at the alter? Well, "I do."